Advocacy

“I always thought someone should do something about that, then I realized I was someone.” ~ Lily Tomlin

FPIES and Advocacy are words that seem to go hand in hand.  Many times, for me, the word "over-advocate" has come to mind; but that is another story for another day.   Today, the story is on Advocacy in complex diagnosis.   Complex Child E-Magazine put a call out for parents who have advocacy stories to share them for their September edition, highlighting Advocacy.  As I mentioned above- I have a few on how I've had to advocate, and too many times, over-advocate for Little Man's needs (medical, physical, psychological, etc). All of these the inspiration to the one that I felt compelled to tell...the story of the beginning of The FPIES Foundation.  I wanted to help others feel empowered with the education and support they needed and to advocate where needed- for their children, for the diagnosis, for children that may follow in the spectrum of this diagnosis. No one should travel this journey alone.  A Foundation was needed, a Foundation I, along with 8 other moms and a community of families, created.  We created it to help families advocate for their little ones and their families within the challenging situations that a rare and little understood diagnosis of FPIES was, and remains yet.  A Foundation whose mission is woven into every ounce of our work, dedicated to offering tools for education, support and advocacy to empower families and the medical community.

You are invited to read more about the beginning of The Foundation for FPIES in the September edition of Complex Child: FPIES, The Formation of a Foundation.

Allow time to process, and other tips to thrive...

April is "Caregiver Mental Health Month" at Complex Child E-Magazine.  A fellow FPIES mom (Cradlerocking Mama) wrote a great article about her Tips to Thrive for Parents of children with special needs.  I also recently wrote an article for their tube feeding awareness segments in February (Overcoming The Small Percentiles: Our Super Tubie).  It is a great e-magazine where parents submit real-life experience and insight articles to share among other families that have children with complex diagnosis.   FPIES is complex just from the shear nature of it, no test can define it, no test to find out what foods your child is allergic to, and then there are differences in how acute and chronic FPIES presents.

Insights and experiences on different and new ways to cope with this rare, and often times complex, allergy are shared graciously among the other parents going through this with us. There seems there is always something new to learn, even if you are expected to be a 'seasoned veteran". I remember the seasoned veterans on the babycenter boards when I was first logging in, how much more sure of themselves they seemed.  They had learned to trust their instincts, go with their gut, follow their child's lead, learned life outside of the restrictions that FPIES can initially put on your family/lifestyle.  Now, armed with the skills and tools needed, they were on to thriving with the new knowledge gained and new perspectives, but graciously continued to come back to the groups to share their insights and experiences, and even their continued frustration of some new challenge that was needing to be overcome.  I remember well something a fellow mom had said one day that stuck so well to where I was at the time....give yourself time to process. Allow time to process through the new stages, the new information, the changes that may need to be made in your home or lifestyle.  Not in a negative way, but in the 'give yourself time to process' and find your way to thrive scope. Give yourself time.  That is what I would add to CradleRocking mama's list.  When faced with a new diagnosis of any kind, or any stage in the journey, it is ok to give yourself time to process; allow yourself that.